The Goodness Squad Podcast Episode #22
Why Learning to say no is essential to your business
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Say "no" can be so SO hard - but I promise you it is easier than feeling like you are failing at life. You must learn to say "no" to the right things to see success in your business and in your family.
Resources mentioned in episode:
The Goodness Squad
The Goodness Squad on Facebook
The Good Start Game Plan
Ask Me Anything Group
The Goodness Squad: Welcome to the goodness squad. Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome. Welcome to the goodness squad.
Misty: Welcome to episode #22 of The Goodness Squad podcast. I'm wondering, have you ever bounced a check? Have you ever bounced one knowingly? Have you written the check knowing you did not have the funds in your account? Because that's what we're going to be talking about today. I'm going to relate this back to your business and your need to say no more often.
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Okay. Let's go back to that bounced check. I'm pretty sure that the vast majority of you said you had never knowingly written a check that you knew would bounce. I want to read you something from Elder Maxwell. He says this "Unwisely, we often write checks against our time accounts that we would never dare do against our bank accounts." We need to think about that. Would you write a check for $3,000 if your bank account only had $100 in it? Would you write a check for $150 if your bank account only had $100 in it? You wouldn't, you understand the folly in that. And yet we do it all the time as women, with our time accounts.
There truly are only 24 hours a day. And when you say yes to something, you are always, always, always, always saying No to something else. When I say I'm going to give an hour to this activity, it means that is one hour I can't spend doing something else. I no longer have 24 hours. I only have 23. But we don't seem to think through this the way we would with our money. I want to give you one more quote. This is from Rachel Hollis, who honestly, I don't love because she's very, very much about the hustle and I am, I'm about hard work for sure, but not at the expense of family. And I don't think that constant hustle is necessary to see success, but I do love one thing that I have heard her say. She says, and this is not a quote this is just me summarizing what she said, but if you want to like yourself, you must keep the promises you make to yourself. And she talks about how, if we had a friend who was a flake and who said, "yeah, I'll go to lunch with you" and then they don't show up or "yeah, I can watch your kids" and then they call five minutes before and say they can't, you would not trust or really like that friend very much.
And yet we do this to ourselves all the time. We make commitments and then we don't always keep those commitments. And we wonder why we don't like ourselves. So, what is the solution? The solution is to give a slow Yes. So this is my advice to you today. I want you to give a slow Yes. I want you to think through these things that we've talked about.
Number one, I want you to think, can I keep this commitment? Am I 100%, certain, or at least 99% certain that I can keep this commitment? Because if I'm not, I don't want to break that promise to myself.
Number two, I want you to ask yourself, "If I say yes to this. What do I have to say no to?" I really want you to think through that process. Are you going to say no to sleep? Are you going to say no to a healthy dinner? Are you going to say no to exercise? Are you going to say no to the field trip with your kid? Are you going to say no to helping your mom? Or are you going to say no to helping your brother move? What is it you're going to say no to because you said yes to something else and then make the choice that is the best use of your time. Choose to say yes or no, based on truly what is the best use of your time?
If you think I'll give you an example. I have decided to say no to my kids, field trips. I struggle with some social anxiety and field trips are hard for me. I come home I am on edge the entire time I'm there. I come home with headaches. I come home grumpy. It is not worth what it does to my health and to my ability to interact well with my family later that day to be happy and enjoyable and positive as a mom. And, I can also use that time to work. So for me, when I'm thinking, "okay, if I say yes to this field trip, what am I saying no to?" I am saying no to a nice evening with my family that night. I am saying no to being able to create this podcast episode for you. And so I have decided that I will not go on field trips.
Now does that mean I never spend time with my kids? Absolutely not. We have weekly dates and things like that, but I have made that choice based on what I believe is truly best for me instead of what other people are gonna think of me.
Now, as I say this to you out loud on a podcast episode where hundreds of you are going to listen to it, is there a little bit of hesitancy? Yeah. That you might judge me because I never go on field trips with my kids? Does that make them sad? Yeah, it does. But I have made an honest and authentic choice that I believe is what's best for our family.
I want you to ask yourself if I say yes to this, what do I have to say no to? And if I say yes to this am I nearly 100% sure I can keep that commitment because I want to like myself? If you do those two things, I promise you, you will see more success in your business and in your work-life balance, because you will be focused on the things that truly matter. And you will start letting go of the things that do not.
Try this experiment. I would love to hear from you, as a review in the podcast app or as an email straight to me, of how it goes for you. Does this help you? This is actually about maybe a third of one of the lessons inside of The Good Start Game Plan. There are nearly 50 lessons inside The Good Start Game Plan. This is one from the very first module where we talk about your, actually, this is one of the second modules, excuse me, where we talk about boundaries and how we need boundaries, and how do we keep those boundaries in order to keep that work-life balance that is so, so essential. To us as Latter-day Saint women. I know that your family and your kids are important to you. And so is your business and that's okay. And I would love to help you find that balance.
As a quick reminder, The Good Start Game Plan is currently $149 and it will go up to $249 on July 10th. I would love to have you join me there. I would love to help you build a firm foundation for your business to work through your mindset, your boundaries, your organization. I would love to help you discover that superpower and then find out what problems your target market has and create a solution for them. That is my goal with this e-course, and I would love to have you join me there at TheGoodnessSquad.com/goodstartgameplan.
Once again, thank you so much for spending your time here with me today. I know that it is valuable and I do all that I can to make it worth your while to be here. Make sure you hit subscribe because in the next episode we are going to be discussing your kryptonite. The one thing I believe can cripple you more than anything else in your business. I'll see you there.
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